Sorry I've been offline - i'm at SOS - Squadron Officers School - at Maxwell AFB in Montgomery, AL. Doing Okay - lots of work. Prayers appreciated - and you can email me if you like.

Anyone in the area have any ideas for weekend activities - I'm all ears.

Thanks ALL!! See you back online soon!

Wes

All i've heard about AL is the bugs are massive and you want to move.

SOS huh? What will your rank be?

You scared me with that thread title, bro.

Glad to hear that you are doing well. Stay safe.

BR - I'm up for Major (O-4) sometime later this year.

TT - oh, yeah. I didn't think about that. Sorry.


Thanks all. . .

There's a minor league team in MGM - the Montgomery Biscuits. A minor league baseball game's usually a good evening. Military night on the 29th!!!

As I was looking for info on them, I hit this link below:

http://www.montgomeryal.gov/index.aspx?page=636

This site will also give you the links to every college and university in town, there may be some events/ sports/ etc at some of them. Looks like there's a nice little farmers' market downtown. Other sites that may be of interest are below:

http://montgomery.alabama.com/attractions_browse.html

http://eventful.com/montgomery/events?c=music&sort_order=Popularity&page_number=1

http://playinghere.com/AL/

http://www.oldalabamatown.com/

Hope this helps you keep your sanity!! I'm still

Excellent!!! Thanks BG!

Yes - I think my flight may be going to a biscuits game. . . other than that - I know I missed a 3rd Day concert at the riverfront last weekend - but had a much better time driving to TN to see my girlfriend.

Thanks for the continued prayers! Y'all rock!

Good to hear from you Wes.

I'm back - and graduated.

Got shin splints with all the running - and managed to mangle my knee on the Project X course (a kind of confidence course). But I'm alive and not limping much at all.

On the way home with my gf, we had some . . . difficult discussions. Although she still says she loves me - she's requesting 'space'. Its disconcerting. . . and a bit heartbreaking - after being apart for 5 weeks - but says its not me. . . yeah, I know.

anyhow - thanks for the prayers. More appreciated.

It's good to have you back. What's next in the military?

Thanks all - prayers are appreciated.

Next in the military - well, I have a security+ class in June, then we have a big inspection coming up, so I'll be there in aug and sep/oct for that. Other than that - just drill. Although I have been applying for some technician (full time working at the base) jobs, at a couple different bases.

Last night - everything came to a head and the relationship ended. I am a bit distraught. . . didn't sleep much. Just trying to deal. Tonight I have my kids, and get the joy of trying to explain why she is not around.

Now probably isn't the time to tell the ol', women, can't live with em', can't shoot 'em joke, is it?

Sorry man. Hope things get better for you and you can enjoy the time with the kids. I'm praying for you.

Still praying.

Thanks all.

Round & round we go. Says she loves me - but can't commit. . . wants time off. . . not sure if she'll want me after. man. relationships suck.

Thanks all - that means a ton to me. I know He's got it. . . just hard to wait. . .

Wow. That was powerful - instant tears. And I'm at work.

Thanks man - really - i appreciate it.

Its true Wes, ( What Chris said) when things look bad and we feel we are in trouble the Lord is right beside you and going through your hard time with you. Thing is we cant see what he is doing with our Human eyes but he is still there doing what needs to be done for you........You know just yesterday I was talking to my wife about how in the last 10 yrs we have been through alot of heavy duty hardships and every single time......I mean every single time, God has taken these hardships and we have suffered through them and ended up in a better place in life because we listened for him each time and each time he lead us out of the desert.......He is there with Wes, just know that.

Over lunch found out she's been talking with an ex. A 20 year history there. . . .and he cheated on her. Just talking. I believe her - but . . . wow. This is so devastating.

Thanks for the prayers - please pray for her - she's in a world of hurt, guilt, and pain.

Hey Wes

Thanks for letting us be there for ya.

Ever since I read this last post I've been feeling an unction that doesn't go away to share this story with you. If it's off-base I'm sorry... My ultimate intent is to encourage you in spite of the circumstances.
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I was seriously engaged to be married at one time. Things were going great and I had no reason to think it wouldn't get better and better.

After being together and quite happy for some time, this person who was SO very enthusiastic about getting married and having babies, stopped coming around and in fact was literally hiding from me. This went on for almost two months and I finally said that if he no longer wanted to see me and/or had changed his mind, fine, but please stop hiding. Face me with whatever it is that's bothering you.

He finally agreed and asked me to meet him for breakfast the next day so we could talk it out. He proceeded to tell me over breakfast about his life before he met me. He had spent a few years with a woman whom he was planning to marry that he just adored and worked his butt off for. She got pregnant and he worked and saved so that the baby had everything he needed before he even was born. They had a son who looked just like him whom he absolutely doted upon. He was thrilled to be a dad!

This woman ended up being the type who always wanted to keep up with the Joneses' and one day after telling her their dining room set was just fine, only a year old and they didn't need a newer one and he WASN'T about to buy a new one, he came home from work to find EVERYTHING gone... the house completely empty...*ALL* the furniture/household stuff he bought and paid for (ca$H) plus her and the child...GONE. There was not a note or a phone call, NOTHING. When she did finally contact him, he found out that she was now also the type of woman to use the kid as a go-between, something to manipulate his emotions with.

His greatest hurt in all of it was that he didn't know where his son lived, or what kind of dudes were around him, and if his son was calling any of them 'dad'.

He was kind of left wondering if/how ANY of that would resolve itself. She would only contact him every now and again to ask for stuff. (see also: yanK his chain)

(I didn't know ANY of this til that morning)

Right before he started hiding from me, she had contacted him again through his family and they decided to meet upp. He was thrilled and overcome to see his son and his emotions were obviously stirred upp. He also told me she wasn't being such a b-word that time and while caught up in the moment, he kissed her. I asked him if he still loved her and he didn't know but didn't think so.

BUT...

His real problem, the reason he was hiding from me all of a sudden is:

He suddenly had to ask himself this question and couldn't answer it straight away...


Do I really love you and want to marry you for *you* ...

OR ...

am I trying (unconsciously) to use you to replace something I've lost??

hmmm

I don't know that he ever found that answer. Ultimately, we did not end upp together as we found we did not want the same things, were not going in the same direction and I still care about him to this day.

At the time, it was like...WHOA!! but I'm extremely glad to have had a fiancee who was mature enough to face that question and be honest with me and himself about it. We could have gone ahead with me none the wiser and him carrying a horrible burden alone with something silently rotting our foundation, our core... *if* we did have such a thing in the first place.

I'm a pretty firm believer in pre-marital counselling simply because folks should know what they will have to face should they go forward and marry.

All that to say: God is faithful to the uttermost and has the best in mind for both of you.

Try to rest in that while you pour your heart out to Him.

God bless!