All I can do is sigh...

Disposable HERO · Number of posts: 982 Age: 38 Registration date: 2008-01-20

My marriage appears as though it's about to collapse. I don't have the energy to type more than that.

**Orion Crystal Ice** · Subject: Re: All I can do is sigh... Tue Aug 19, 2008 7:10 pm

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Angel with Attitude · Subject: Re: All I can do is sigh... Tue Aug 19, 2008 7:16 pm

*hugg*

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**alldatndensum** · Subject: Re: All I can do is sigh... Tue Aug 19, 2008 7:46 pm

I've been there, bro. But, I also know the power of God to heal and strengthen a marriage on the rocks, too. Mine should have died back in 2000--but we're still together and enjoying one another 8 years later. Don't give up hope, yet! God is still the God who works the impossible!

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**Black Rider** · Subject: Re: All I can do is sigh... Tue Aug 19, 2008 8:00 pm

Sorry man, I know you've been through a lot from what you've shared.

Praying2

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L8T · Number of posts: 4219 Registration date: 2007-03-13

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Sorry man, I know you've been through a lot from what you've shared.

Yes.

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Don't give up hope, yet! God is still the God who works the impossible!

I agree here too, obviously.

Still praying for you man...you have shared alot, and there is probably lots more, but that doesn't matter, I am just praying for the two of you.

**Tall Tyrion** · Number of posts: 10208 Age: 41 Registration date: 2007-01-28

So sorry to hear this, bro.

Hit me up if you need to talk. I will be praying.

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GODSWIZARD · Subject: Re: All I can do is sigh... Tue Aug 19, 2008 10:56 pm

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My marriage appears as though it's about to collapse.

I can relate. Crying or Very sad

As Alldat said, just with a different year......mine was on the rocks in 2005 into 2006......sorry. Relational miracles can happen......yeah. scratch

Sorry......it's a tough.....lousy place to be in. Crying or Very sad

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White Metal Ninja · Subject: Re: All I can do is sigh... Wed Aug 20, 2008 9:14 am

Dude, I just read this. I will be praying . . . man sorry you gotta walk this. I'd give a hug too - you know a manly one with one arm from the side followed by a punch in the arm. Hang in there . . . both of ya.

Lord, I don't know the situation, but you do. Be there with our friend and his wife. Be there in a real way an dbring the healing and restoration only you can do. Thanks for hearing us Jesus, thanks for walking throught it with us.

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I saw my parents marriage nearly collapse a few years back and they worked things out. There is hope! I'll be praying for you DH Praying

Disposable HERO · Number of posts: 982 Age: 38 Registration date: 2008-01-20

Thanks everyone. I appreciate it.

**Orion Crystal Ice** · Subject: Re: All I can do is sigh... Wed Sep 03, 2008 7:56 pm

anything new..?

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will be thinking and praying for all involved.

hugs from NM

Disposable HERO · Number of posts: 982 Age: 38 Registration date: 2008-01-20

Orion Crystal Ice wrote:

anything new..?

I didn't see this sooner because...well, I wasn't visiting this part of the forums because...well, I wasn't praying or feeling like talking with God or seeing what others had to say about God.

Do all of you remember a while back when someone posted about whether or not readers had been angry at God? I could honestly answer at that time that I had not. Confused, uncertain, even a little frustrated. But not angry. With recent events, I became angry. Angry that he let events unfold the way they did. Angry that he let my wife shift her feelings toward me the way He did after I've been emotionally and spiritually supporting her through what she's going through. I'd like to think it hasn't really been anger. But it has.

And so I've felt guilty visiting this part of the forums. Hypocritical. Like I have no right to be in this section. Sound weird? It sounds a bit weird to me as I type this. But I just felt that way.

I've made some progress with this lately, but not as much as I'd like. My wife and I have made some progress. I wasn't talking to her for quite a while. I couldn't stand the sight of her, to tell the truth. I felt betrayed, and I felt like she was setting me up to take a fall. I also felt like she was setting me up to create blame and then a reason for leaving me. [I should mention that it feels strange right now laying this all out. I don't know if this will be a good thing. "Never air your laundry in public," the saying goes. Take a look at my boxers everyone.]

We saw a counselor two weeks ago. I needed it. It didn't resolve a whole lot, but it helped, and after that I was able to talk to her and share some things that needed to be said. I've been able to talk to her since then, and I've been able to spend time around her and come to enjoy spending time with her again. Tomorrow we return to the counselor, and I imagine we'll keep seeing him for some time.

I'm still having trouble feeling confidence in her. She has no grasp of what sacrifices are necessary to get out of the hole we're in financially. She has no grasp of how much money she's lost gambling (she thinks it's way, way less than it really is). She is a compulsive spender and she can't stop spending, even though it's digging us deeper and deeper into a hole. And she blames me for this because "I don't make enough money" to support the lifestyle she wants. So it's a predicament to say the least.

And all of this makes me frustrated with God. It's illogical. Why should I be frustrated with God? It's probably just guilt for not having a clue how to take this before Him.

Well, I have to go fill out this huge thing of paperwork for the counselor tomorrow. My wife forgot to give it to me earlier. Heh heh. So the next couple hours will be busy. Tomorrow I head to the doctor and then the counselor. And then life moves on. And hopefully soon I can feel closer to God again, because I have to be able to take this to Him. [In a cruel twist of irony, my wife has told me the only two things that have kept her going as she passes her 3 month period staying out of casinos have been God and me. Yet she set some events in motion with our relationship which were like ringing a bell that can't be unrung. And now I'm having trouble getting close to the very God that's helping her through the tough times. She passed on to me some kind of inversion.]

Well, that's it in a nutshell (a very large nutshell). I appreciate the support, even if I feel like I don't merit it.

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Disposable HERO wrote:

Orion Crystal Ice wrote:

anything new..?

I didn't see this sooner because...well, I wasn't visiting this part of the forums because...well, I wasn't praying or feeling like talking with God or seeing what others had to say about God.

Do all of you remember a while back when someone posted about whether or not readers had been angry at God? I could honestly answer at that time that I had not. Confused, uncertain, even a little frustrated. But not angry. With recent events, I became angry. Angry that he let events unfold the way they did. Angry that he let my wife shift her feelings toward me the way He did after I've been emotionally and spiritually supporting her through what she's going through. I'd like to think it hasn't really been anger. But it has.

And so I've felt guilty visiting this part of the forums. Hypocritical. Like I have no right to be in this section. Sound weird? It sounds a bit weird to me as I type this. But I just felt that way.
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Doesn't sound weird to me at all. Sounds like your seeing yourself quite clearly as well.

L8T · Number of posts: 4219 Registration date: 2007-03-13

Thanks for the update. I too, don't think anything in your post is weird. Thanks for taking the time to give details.

Still praying about this.

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**Black Rider** · Subject: Re: All I can do is sigh... Mon Sep 08, 2008 9:32 am

Still praying also.

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**alldatndensum** · Subject: Re: All I can do is sigh... Mon Sep 08, 2008 10:18 am

Sauron wrote:

Disposable HERO wrote:

Orion Crystal Ice wrote:

anything new..?

I didn't see this sooner because...well, I wasn't visiting this part of the forums because...well, I wasn't praying or feeling like talking with God or seeing what others had to say about God.

Do all of you remember a while back when someone posted about whether or not readers had been angry at God? I could honestly answer at that time that I had not. Confused, uncertain, even a little frustrated. But not angry. With recent events, I became angry. Angry that he let events unfold the way they did. Angry that he let my wife shift her feelings toward me the way He did after I've been emotionally and spiritually supporting her through what she's going through. I'd like to think it hasn't really been anger. But it has.

And so I've felt guilty visiting this part of the forums. Hypocritical. Like I have no right to be in this section. Sound weird? It sounds a bit weird to me as I type this. But I just felt that way.
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Doesn't sound weird to me at all. Sounds like your seeing yourself quite clearly as well.

As odd as this might sound, I agree with Ash on this one.

I do want to address one thing you said. You stated that you felt unworthy to be posting in this area. Having a prayer request is never something you earn the right to share. It's all about need. It's all about having other people pray when you cannot. It's all about having friends pray with full faith in God when you feel faithless. That's why we're here.

Keep holding on! We're still gonna be lifting you up!

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**ultmetal** · Number of posts: 3414 Registration date: 2006-12-26

alldatndensum wrote:

I've been there, bro. But, I also know the power of God to heal and strengthen a marriage on the rocks, too. Mine should have died back in 2000--but we're still together and enjoying one another 8 years later. Don't give up hope, yet! God is still the God who works the impossible!

Awesome and encouraging post bro. Smile

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White Metal Ninja · Subject: Re: All I can do is sigh... Thu Sep 11, 2008 9:03 am

Ditto to all that . . . good grief if we had to be worthy to air our dirty laundry, we'd all be in a pickle. Your honesty is pretty incredible. Man, I wish we could make it better, but in truth all we can do is stand back here in the stands and kinda cheer you on. (keep going dude!)

I think the whole anger at God thing is a pretty normal reaction . . . I don't think God minds taking our guff for a time if we are working at moving past it. I mean you probably already know that He is without blame in this whole thing, but part of you wants to rage at something. I personally think our Savior can handle it . . . He knows we're just working it out, and as long as we do in fack work it out the anger we have is temporary and forgiveable. Sorta like the friend you cna totally dump on 'cause you know he will not waver being your friend. He knows you are in a snit and can take it for a time, knowing you will get back to normal at some point. How much more a Savior like Jesus Christ.
You're in good hands my friend, peace on your soul and blessings on your head. I will keep praying for you both.

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